I'm the first person to tell you I'm a pessimist. I could say I'm not proud of that fact, but I'm not really ashamed of it either. I can't say positive thinking has ever yielded a better outcome for me in life, in fact, it's often left me more disappointed when whatever thing I wanted to happen didn't because I expected it to. It's for that reason, many would probably argue my pessimism is a defense mechanism, and they're probably right. Nevertheless, if there are two voices talking to me in my head at the same time, more than likely, I'm going to lean into the one talking shit.
Christina Milian knows a little something about that duality. I asked the singer about feeling enough and how she silences the voices we all hear from time to time that tell us we're less than and she shared this about what goes on in her mind.
"There's a negative voice and then there's one voice that just knows you so well and that has that power to allow faith into your life -- allows you to relax and let it go and allow that faith to really kick in and take the driver's seat and say, 'Hey, what's meant to be right now is happening for a reason.' There are choices in life that can help you further get better. We don't make all the right choices and sometimes the wrong choices make us even better for who we are, but it's okay to take chances. In life, I think our story is already kind of made for us. It's like it's already written. So, that being said, follow your heart, follow that positive voice. I think it's really important to have that voice fight that other one that can allow any of that negativity to kind of overtake your mind and make you feel any less than who you are. "
Fight is the perfect word for what it takes to try to silence negativity. That being said, the clarity that comes with opening up your mind to positive possibilities is worth the internal battle.
"Maybe sometimes the things around us are not meant for us at that moment or you've grown past it and praying on it, it'll open your eyes and once your eyes are opened it's amazing how many signs you get, daily, that let you know you are going in the right direction," Christina added.
One area where it can be particularly hard to feel like you're doing things right is motherhood. As a mother to a 10-year-old and a 10-month-old, Christina knows something about that struggle, saying she's always questioning whether she should be doing more for her kids and with them at any given moment. But her perspective on asking whether you're doing enough is one that could benefit not just moms, but everyone: "If you're thinking like that already, you're doing good enough."
Check out our full conversation in the video below.